"this suggests that lack of protection or boundaries has caused you to be wounded in the past. Setting aside the question of who is guilty and how scores might be settled, ask yourself, are still expecting the worst?"
"you are the proper inheritor of a family tradition or ethic that makes you an important person in your community. This underlying heritage may have so thoroughly permeated your history and development that you have gone to special lengths to be distinct from it, to avoid becoming swallowed by it."
"this suggests that it is part of your soul's growth to serve as some kind of sacrificial lamb. You should have elected this for special reasons -- you knew you were strong enough; it wouldn't be fatal or cause permanent damage; and in your great compassion you saw that you could help others whose vulnerability or fragility would make this experience too devastating for them."
Some things to think about...
(while I'm good and hormonal)
